THE LESSON I LEARNED WHEN MY LIFE FLASHED BEFORE ME(Why You Should Strive For A Balanced Life))
Reading a lot of motivational books and listening to speakers early enough, made me associate success with pain.
Let me explain.
There’s always this line about sacrifice.
You know, how someone ate only one meal a day for three years so as to save up money to start a business.
Or how a student was sleeping for two and a half hours daily and finally made a first class.
I felt that success was only about pain and making sacrifices.
I accepted that. Especially the work part.
As far as I was concerned, there was no time.
Fast forward to August 2017, I had an exam to write. I equally had a lot of work piled up.
I juggled through all that to the point that sleep became a luxury.
Few weeks later, I wrote the exam. I even completed most of the projects. I felt good with myself. Yeah, I was walking the talk. Hard work pays. Stretch yourself. Etc. You know the drill.
But as we got into September, I noticed something else.
I found out I was suddenly always tired. My heart seemed to be pacing. I would sleep, wake up, and just become extremely tired. I saw myself sweating even under AC. My head was literally hot.
I knew something was wrong.
“Toby, when last did you do a medical checkup?”, that was my sister.
I dismissed it with a wave of the hand.
I am still under 30, I am not feeling sick, why on earth would I need a medical checkup at this age?
After listening to her speak from a medical point of view, I decided to get it done.
These guys checked my blood pressure o. After that, the doctor had to look at my age again for confirmation.
Doctor: Do you eat a lot of salt?
Doctor: Do you exercise?
Doctor: Do you drink enough water?
Me: Very well.
Doctor: Do you sleep? Do you work very hard?
Me: Sleep? Hian. Please don’t tell me about that 8 hours of sleep thing, I don’t believe in it. I love to work, so yes, I work very hard (I answered with a proud and smug look, feeling accomplished)
The doctor asked for more details about my work style, and let’s just say that she mandated me to take bed rest for one month.
I was like “What? One month? What will I be doing with my life if I’m not working?”
She sternly replied that if I don’t find what to do with my life outside work, soon enough I won’t have a life to work in.
She equally refused to give me any pills or drugs, and just insisted I rest.
So I left, and for one month, I resisted any temptation to do anything that will make me think too much or do above-minimal work. I even bought a couple of seasonal movies, stayed indoors, and watched.
Let’s just say, I rested.
It felt strange o, honestly.
But one month later, I could taste the difference.
I went for another checkup, and everything was back to normal.
I thanked God silently, counted my blessings, learned my lessons, and moved on.
These days, I know better. I don’t live to work, I work to sustain my living and inspire others.
I don’t live to save, I save to sustain my living…
In other words, it took a medical checkup, and my life flashing in front of my eyes to learn the wisdom in living a balanced life.
I also learned a very important lesson:
Life is too short.
Be you! Do you!
Treat yourself. Take yourself out. Get that gorgeous dress you love. Go on that vacation. Take a break from time to time.
Stop waiting for tomorrow, it may never come.
You see those people that offended you eh, when life flashes before your eyes, you will suddenly forgive and forget them.
You see those fears you have? When life flashes, you suddenly become shameless and stop trying to live up to anyone’s expectation except your own.
Work hard o. But make sure everything is balanced because life will always try to balance itself.