IN LIFE, DON’T SKIP THE PROCESS; DO THESE INSTEAD
When I stepped into the world of professional writing, one of the things I desperately prayed for was speed. In other words, I wanted to hammer, and I wanted to hammer sharp sharp.
I quoted lots of scriptures to prove to God why he should bless me as soon as possible. I prayed, fasted, and did all I knew to do to get God’s attention.
None of those worked.
It still took me more than a year of starting my first blog to make the first dime from writing.
It was like God didn’t really care about me the way I thought he should.
As far as I was concerned, he didn’t answer my prayer. He just about did what he wanted to do.
One year later, however, my perspective changed dramatically.
It took more than one year for me to understand why God didn’t ‘answer’ my prayer, or at least, didn’t answer it the way I wanted him to.
I needed to go through the process.
Those rejections toughened me up.
Those days of having to write long hours into the night make it easy for me to still write for long hours into the night today, etc.
If I had skipped the process, I may still have stumbled into success. Yes, but when the storms come, I won’t be found standing.
If you are reading this, and you are passing through a building process, remember that it is helping you build character.
But of course, it is tough on you. I understand.
The points below are mindsets that helped me go through my own processes, and I believe they will help you too.
1. CONSTANTLY REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOUR PRESENT SITUATION IS ONLY TEMPORARY
One way you can do this effectively is to construct a vision board and put pictures of the destination you desire there. Look at them every morning and remind yourself that you will get there.
Even though I was living in what could pass as a cubicle back then, I had about 7 pictures in my room that reminded me of the dream I had. Each picture represented a particular dream, ranging from financial success, successful career, successful marriage, an awesome spiritual life, etc.
2. LOOK FOR HAPPINESS IN THE QUAGMIRE
The fact that things seem tough doesn’t mean you should become all moody. Find something to laugh about in your tough situation.
Personally, I remember times when I would buy garri to drink. When we get upstairs, Kc and I will pray on it, and declare that it has become fried rice with chicken and salad.
Then we will go ahead and eat the delicious meal, and even use a toothpick at the end. At that point, we would have laughed ourselves to stupor.
3. ROLE PLAY YOUR DREAM
Back then, I usually imagined myself in a situation where my big shot writing dream would have materialized.
Yes, I rehearsed how I would react excitedly, how I would speak and walk when I finally start making a headway as a writer. It kept me motivated.
4. STAY POSITIVE, AND TRUST GOD EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS.
For me, I found my solace in Romans 8:28, and Psalm 138:8. They reminded me that ALL things would always work out for my good, and that God will perfect EVERYTHING that concerns me.
5. DON’T EVER COMPARE!
Someone else seems to be making it? It’s not your business. Don’t punish yourself by comparing. You are all at different points in the journey of life.
6. BE SINCERELY GRATEFUL
I remember writing a four-page note titled “Counting my Blessings” sometime in 2015, and pasting it in my small room.
In it, I meticulously listed all the blessings I was grateful for at that moment.
It ranged from my health to my academic qualification, and so many other things.
It was sincere and specific, and whenever I read them, it had a way of keeping me positive.
7. BE PATIENT.
8. START WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE
Mtn 3k monthly night browsing plan? I used it. Skiddo simple server? I used it too. External laptop battery and charger? Check. Writing for free? Yes!
I didn’t have most things I needed, but I moved on with the things I had.
There, you have it. These helped me through my tough times, they can help you too.
NB. Someone called me today and asked why I stopped writing. According to him, he hasn’t been seeing my posts.
I was surprised. I have been writing and posting here virtually every day. Am I missing something? Is there something I am doing wrong that made Facebook stop showing my posts on people’s feed?
If you still see my posts, kindly comment.